How To Get Peace Of Mind _ Peacefulmindbody

                               
                                   Peace is the result of retraining
                                   your mind to process life as it is,
                                   rather than as you think it should be.
                                                                                     ...Wayne W. Dyer                                                          
                                                
                                  
In today's fast-paced world it seems a bit difficult to attain peace of mind while carrying out day to day task and fulfilling demands of modern high-tech life, but the truth is that having a peaceful mind is not a rocket science ,its an attitude towards life, the way one respond to different circumstances of life and anybody can cultivate it with little practice.Its something already resides in you, it comes from within, it is related to your inside world and only you can make yourself at peace ,you don't need anything outside your body to keep you calm and peaceful.


Being a peaceful person does not mean that you are unable to feel stress,tension,worries or sadness rather it means you are more capable of dealing with negative emotions and thoughts as soon as they arise without disturbing your deep peaceful state and without feeling overwhelmed by the negativity. Its inevitable to avoid painful emotions we are born with full range of emotions so its better to let them flow through your body rather than numb yourself which is an unhealthy way of dealing with negativity, hinders your healing ,growth and a root cause of many mental illnesses.


If you are someone who is having difficult time in attaining and enjoying peace of mind then you are at the right place.You don't necessarily need to be a monk to get peace of mind just following simple yet effective ways of living can transform you into your best version, capable of maintaining deep well-deserved peace of mind.


MINDFULNESS:


                    Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without
                                                                                            ... Buddha



What is mindfulness? Its a quality of being aware and conscious of ones feelings and thoughts , ability to acknowledge present moment as it is without resisting it.


By making mindfulness a ritual in your life you not only find yourself more at peace but also enjoy frequent episodes of joy and gratitude ,its an easy way to declutter your mind with detrimental thought patterns ,worries and appreciate what is there for you in this very moment.


Just pick one or two tasks which you perform daily and allow yourself to do it with full concentration and awareness. For example when you are brushing your teeth daily focus your attention on it ,notice the feeling of bristles on your gums and teeth ,movement of your brush ,become aware of sensations without judging how you are doing it.


The purpose of this technique is to keep your chattering mind away for some time , stop your racing thoughts , get connected with your body by becoming conscious of  yourself.

                                     
                                                                        
FOCUS ON YOUR BREATHING / STAY IN PRESENT MOMENT:
                               

                      Realize deeply that the present moment is all you
                     have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.
                                                                                                ...Eckhart Tolle



In moments of stress shift your attention to your breathing ,become aware of your inhalation and exhalation cycles. Take a nice deep breath through your nose fill your lungs completely with oxygen rich air in a way that your abdomen comes out during inhalation then slowly release it through your mouth .This is called diaphragmatic breathing or abdominal breathing, your diaphragm, a muscle between chest and abdominal cavity, contracts makes your belly protruding out. This type of breathing aids putting less efforts and energy to breath ,maximizing the amount of oxygen while taking normal breaths, gives you calming and relaxing state of mind ,makes you feel grounded, keeps you connected with the present moment.


Its quite common to get lost in the past or worrying about the future in the midst of daily life issues, by just  becoming aware of your surroundings ,using your five senses as much as you can, pay attention to what you see, hear, smell, feel ,taste in this moment you can bring your focus back to the task at hand, become connected with now without being engulfed by the challenges of life  so you can make the most of this very moment while enjoying mental peace.



PEN DOWN YOUR WORRIES:


                     If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself 
                     not to worry, worry never fixes anything.
                                                                                         ...Ernest Hemingway



I emphasize on this one a lot .We all have worries even people who seem to be breezing through life on a happy wave feel worried and stressed out at some time or the other, its impossible to run from daily life agendas , we just have to mange it in a correct way .


 Keep aside few minutes everyday from your busy routine and write down your worries ,feelings and thoughts .This helps you to gain better perspective of the real you, your feelings and life in general and is highly useful to vent your negative emotions ,those that bring you down and make you anxious.


Assign a particular time for your worries ,lets call it worry time ,try to solve issues, sort out your problems and figure out the solutions in this limited time span .whenever a disturbing thought or worry arises at any time of the day, note it down instead of ruminating over it and make a mental note of returning to it later in the worry time. This can safeguard your entire day from getting ruined by interrupting thoughts and concerns.



LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES:



                      The only source of knowledge is experience.
                                                                                     ...Albert Einstein
                                                                                                    

We are not born with a manual of Do's and Don'ts, if something works for you it might not work for someone else, the only way to learn is from your experience. Forget the idea of avoiding errors ,you cant ,you can definitely lessen them by acquiring knowledge from your past experiences but you are unable to stop doing mistakes.Remember there is no such thing as failure only feedback . Don't beat yourself up for being imperfect and creating errors, don't let your peaceful mind get disturbed by things which are beyond your control. Learn and move forward ,you are exactly where you need to be in order to go where you want to be , it is the peaceful way of living without any doubt.

    

JUDGE LESS , ACCEPT MORE:



                   Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change
                    others.
                                                                                      ...Gerald Jampoisky


By becoming less critical of yourself and others you are allowing yourself as well as others to be their best authentic self. You cant accept others unless you fully accept yourself . Yes its true, you may find it difficult to accept flaws of others when you are struggling with accepting your own weaknesses. 


We all are imperfect beings ,our flaws and mistakes make us human .Accept everyone as they are without having an urge to change them, we are incapable of changing others but we do have a choice either to accept them as they are or walk away ,you can maintain healthy boundaries and stop allowing others to manipulate you or take advantage of you but don't waste your energy reserves in trying to change others ,its necessary for your own well-being.

But yes you do have power to work on your own shortcomings and flaws , the first step towards becoming your best self is to acknowledge your flaws ,become aware of your good and not so good attributes with compassion and empathy, People usually fall in two extremes they either become critical of themselves, blaming and criticising or they prefer to stay in denial as they find their real self unacceptable .Both of the ways are awful ,enough to disrupt your mental peace ,you don't find it comfortable to stay with your own self as you are your own worst critic or you are not feeling connected to yourself as you are degrading your true self by denying it.


The more balanced or healthy way to deal with your imperfections is to accept them with compassion, admit that you are having flaws just like all other human-beings and focus on improving yourself.                                     

                                                

STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE WITH OTHERS:

                            Try not to get lost in comparing yourself to 
                            others. Discover your gifts and let them shine!
                                                                                              ...Jennie Finch

This is a sure way to feel depressed and frustrated, destroying inner peace and give rise to envy which again can  kill inner tranquillity. People are going through ups and downs in life, facing challenges, fighting battles no one is aware of. You cant predict their inner story just by looking at their apparently perfect life. We all are experiencing different situations, our sufferings are different ,our journey of life is unique so it doesn't make sense to compare it with others. Its fine if you are lacking something in life we all do feel this way.

 By acknowledging the fact that its impossible to get what you want each and every time and whenever you desire you can ease yourself , calm inner conflicts and harsh judgement. Try to accept things as they are instead of creating some ideal version . Don't miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.



SHOW KINDNESS TOWARD OTHERS:



                              Kind words can be short and easy to speak but 
                              their echoes are truly endless.
                                                                             ...Mother Teresa




You don't need a reason to make someone happy, your little act of kindness can do wonders in life of others. By helping others we bring peace to ourselves ,even your kind words have power to mend broken hearts, heal tortured souls ,give sunshine to gloomy life .Whatever good you are contributing today in this world, it will soon reflect back to you ,do good and good will follow you.


True kindness is to give something without expecting anything in return. By offering your help with pure heart you not only create happiness in lives of others but you are able to make yourself peaceful, not anticipating return from them. You enjoy your ability to make others happy which in itself is a big blessing. By lifting someone up you are actually lifting yourself up ,its a sure way to enlighten your heart and soul. Do not forget to show same kindness to yourself as well.

                       

              
                           Peace of mind comes when you stop expecting
                                                and start accepting...
                                                


The things which are most disturbing to us are within us, by knowing yourself better with compassion, by calming your inner critic ,by embracing your life with all its gifts you feel more empowered to deal with the challenges of outer world.


You don't need to wait for things to fall in place before you enjoy peaceful mind ,you just have to take care of your inner world and it will cherish you with much awaited mental peace and serenity. All the best!