We all have fears, fear of uncertainty, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of pain, and fear of not being loved by others. Most of these fears are mind-made illusions, they are not real but have the power to keep you stuck, holding you back from living the life you desire. They keep you from growing and fulfilling your dreams. They can shake your self-confidence by giving room to self-doubt. By listening to your inner critic non-stop chatter you increase your anxiety and get trapped in a worrying habit. The more you dwell on the negative messages from your mind the more you start believing them, which in turn makes you more fearful, and incapable of taking action. your fears are telling you stories and within no time you find yourself doubting your talents and capabilities, you feel paralyzed and stuck.
To break this detrimental cycle of unwanted thoughts, you need to take a step forward, realizing that you don't need to believe each of your thoughts, it might feel uncomfortable to confront your fears but discomfort gives birth to personal growth.
To escape fear, you have to go through it,
You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you can't have both.
I know it seems scary to face something that you are trying so hard to avoid, you procrastinate things, you give yourself excuses, and you have multiple reasons for not moving forward and pursuing your goals. As soon as you try to step out of your comfort zone, a wall of insecurities and vulnerabilities blocks your path, you start doubting your talents and abilities, and you second-guess your strengths. Now let's face the truth, if you believe your mind's negative self-fulfilling prophecy, if you step back and resist the discomfort of uncertainty, you will not be able to live your desired life, no one else can push you out of your comfort zone, only you have the power to nip your fears in the bud as soon as they start surfacing. It is natural to feel vulnerable and fearful when you are going to try something new but never let that fear hinder your journey as courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to proceed despite fear.
To increase self-confidence and overcome fears you need to be persistent, it's a lifelong journey, you can't become confident overnight, so set little goals, and do one thing every day that scares you, these small steps add up to build your confidence. After overcoming your fears you feel a sudden boost in your confidence.
The way to develop self-confidence is to do
If you are one among those who tend to take failures to heart, if you fear committing mistakes, if you can't stop your inner critic whenever you lose, then I feel compelled to tell you that this attitude of yours is the biggest reason you feel stuck.
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.
Failure does not show your inadequacy, inaction does. If you are putting in your efforts, doing your best, and even then don't get the expected outcome, there is nothing to fix, you can always learn from your experience, make necessary changes, and do differently next time. But if you are not trying something out of fear of failure then it is something that needs to be fixed, ask yourself a few questions, why are you so harsh on yourself? Why are you finding it difficult to accept your mistakes? Why are you not accepting yourself as human, and it's natural for humans to fail before getting successful? Failures are nothing more than feedback about your performance, they are the stepping stone towards success. Next time when you encounter failure, accept it as a necessary step towards your destination so you may get comfortable with failure, don't feel discouraged.
Don't let your fear of failure stop you from growing. Keep going, and continue your journey despite all the setbacks and failures, they are there to teach you something.
If you are constantly comparing yourself to others, you are going to fall into a trap of self-pity, you can't be your best in everything you do, some people are doing better than you and of course, many are not doing as good as you are. The moment you start comparing yourself to others is the moment you lose confidence in yourself. By comparing your achievements with others you are building up unnecessary pressure upon yourself, you will think low of yourself, and underestimate your capabilities so if you want to move forward just try to be a better version of yourself, don't do anything to be better than others but to be better than your previous self.
Strength doesn't come from what you can do, it comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn't.
There must be something you are passionate about or if you are not sure just notice what makes you happy and satisfied, find a hobby, or get creative. By following your passion you are showing the world your unique side, you are born to stand out don't try to blend in. Listen to your heart, make your pathway, and let yourself shine with your inborn talents. You will thank your future self for allowing yourself to take action towards your desired life. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take. Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity, don't expect validation from others, and do what you feel is right for you.
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will
It's easy to get in turmoil when life gets rough when you are about to give up, have a look at your past achievements, how you faced the challenges, how you got fruitful results from your struggles, what you have learned from your experiences which helped you to be a better person you are today.
You did your best in the past, managed to overcome your fears and you can do it now also, you need a little bit of self-reassurance. Keep a reality check, how many times you failed when you were anticipating failure. What's the worst that could happen? How did you handle the worst-case scenario in the past? Be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.
It's not necessary to know what others think of you but what you think of yourself, don't worry about the judgment of others, and don't judge yourself either, never stop taking action because of the fear of what might people say. Inaction gives rise to fears and doubts, action will boost your confidence. If you know who you are, what you are doing, and why you are doing then criticism and judgment from outside don't matter much. You don't need the approval of others in everything you do.
There is a possibility that people may not be judging you as much as you are expecting them, they are surrounded by their life issues, mostly it is us who are judging ourselves and then projecting it onto others.
You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
Take some time and make a list of five things you appreciate about yourself, you will be surprised to find out there is a lot to be grateful for. We often fail to focus on what we possess because we are too busy trying to get what we lack. We struggle to get what others are enjoying negating the fact that we already have things to love and enjoy in our life. It's easy to get distracted by the achievements of others and it's hard to acknowledge our qualities when we are so much obsessed by the things which we are lacking. Take a break from your busy life, get out of your ungrateful mind, and revisit your true self with a positive mindset then and only then you will be able to show gratitude for the blessings you have. You feel you have something to offer to the world. This is a sure way to boost your confidence instantly, you will not only feel confident but act confident also.
Don't let your fears of what could happen make nothing happen. It's okay to be scared but don't let this fear stop you from living your life to the fullest, being afraid means you are about to do something courageous. Now what's your strategy to overcome fears? How will you make these tips part of your life? Start working today on your fears and live your life without regrets.
Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.
All the best!
To break this detrimental cycle of unwanted thoughts, you need to take a step forward, realizing that you don't need to believe each of your thoughts, it might feel uncomfortable to confront your fears but discomfort gives birth to personal growth.
To escape fear, you have to go through it,
not around.
.....Richie Norton
GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE:
You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you can't have both.
....Brene Brown
I know it seems scary to face something that you are trying so hard to avoid, you procrastinate things, you give yourself excuses, and you have multiple reasons for not moving forward and pursuing your goals. As soon as you try to step out of your comfort zone, a wall of insecurities and vulnerabilities blocks your path, you start doubting your talents and abilities, and you second-guess your strengths. Now let's face the truth, if you believe your mind's negative self-fulfilling prophecy, if you step back and resist the discomfort of uncertainty, you will not be able to live your desired life, no one else can push you out of your comfort zone, only you have the power to nip your fears in the bud as soon as they start surfacing. It is natural to feel vulnerable and fearful when you are going to try something new but never let that fear hinder your journey as courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to proceed despite fear.
To increase self-confidence and overcome fears you need to be persistent, it's a lifelong journey, you can't become confident overnight, so set little goals, and do one thing every day that scares you, these small steps add up to build your confidence. After overcoming your fears you feel a sudden boost in your confidence.
The way to develop self-confidence is to do
the thing you fear.
....William Jennings Bryan
TAKE FAILURE AS A STEPPING STONE TOWARD SUCCESS:
If you are one among those who tend to take failures to heart, if you fear committing mistakes, if you can't stop your inner critic whenever you lose, then I feel compelled to tell you that this attitude of yours is the biggest reason you feel stuck.
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.
....Peter T. Mcintyre
Failure does not show your inadequacy, inaction does. If you are putting in your efforts, doing your best, and even then don't get the expected outcome, there is nothing to fix, you can always learn from your experience, make necessary changes, and do differently next time. But if you are not trying something out of fear of failure then it is something that needs to be fixed, ask yourself a few questions, why are you so harsh on yourself? Why are you finding it difficult to accept your mistakes? Why are you not accepting yourself as human, and it's natural for humans to fail before getting successful? Failures are nothing more than feedback about your performance, they are the stepping stone towards success. Next time when you encounter failure, accept it as a necessary step towards your destination so you may get comfortable with failure, don't feel discouraged.
Don't let your fear of failure stop you from growing. Keep going, and continue your journey despite all the setbacks and failures, they are there to teach you something.
BE A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF:
If you are constantly comparing yourself to others, you are going to fall into a trap of self-pity, you can't be your best in everything you do, some people are doing better than you and of course, many are not doing as good as you are. The moment you start comparing yourself to others is the moment you lose confidence in yourself. By comparing your achievements with others you are building up unnecessary pressure upon yourself, you will think low of yourself, and underestimate your capabilities so if you want to move forward just try to be a better version of yourself, don't do anything to be better than others but to be better than your previous self.
Strength doesn't come from what you can do, it comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn't.
PURSUE YOUR PASSION:
There must be something you are passionate about or if you are not sure just notice what makes you happy and satisfied, find a hobby, or get creative. By following your passion you are showing the world your unique side, you are born to stand out don't try to blend in. Listen to your heart, make your pathway, and let yourself shine with your inborn talents. You will thank your future self for allowing yourself to take action towards your desired life. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take. Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity, don't expect validation from others, and do what you feel is right for you.
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will
...M. Clement Stone
RECALL PAST ACCOMPLISHMENTS:
It's easy to get in turmoil when life gets rough when you are about to give up, have a look at your past achievements, how you faced the challenges, how you got fruitful results from your struggles, what you have learned from your experiences which helped you to be a better person you are today.
You did your best in the past, managed to overcome your fears and you can do it now also, you need a little bit of self-reassurance. Keep a reality check, how many times you failed when you were anticipating failure. What's the worst that could happen? How did you handle the worst-case scenario in the past? Be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.
DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU:
It's not necessary to know what others think of you but what you think of yourself, don't worry about the judgment of others, and don't judge yourself either, never stop taking action because of the fear of what might people say. Inaction gives rise to fears and doubts, action will boost your confidence. If you know who you are, what you are doing, and why you are doing then criticism and judgment from outside don't matter much. You don't need the approval of others in everything you do.
There is a possibility that people may not be judging you as much as you are expecting them, they are surrounded by their life issues, mostly it is us who are judging ourselves and then projecting it onto others.
You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
...Eleanor Roosevelt
MAKE A LIST OF FIVE THINGS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF:
Take some time and make a list of five things you appreciate about yourself, you will be surprised to find out there is a lot to be grateful for. We often fail to focus on what we possess because we are too busy trying to get what we lack. We struggle to get what others are enjoying negating the fact that we already have things to love and enjoy in our life. It's easy to get distracted by the achievements of others and it's hard to acknowledge our qualities when we are so much obsessed by the things which we are lacking. Take a break from your busy life, get out of your ungrateful mind, and revisit your true self with a positive mindset then and only then you will be able to show gratitude for the blessings you have. You feel you have something to offer to the world. This is a sure way to boost your confidence instantly, you will not only feel confident but act confident also.
Don't let your fears of what could happen make nothing happen. It's okay to be scared but don't let this fear stop you from living your life to the fullest, being afraid means you are about to do something courageous. Now what's your strategy to overcome fears? How will you make these tips part of your life? Start working today on your fears and live your life without regrets.
Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.
....Mark Twain
All the best!
