Seven Secrets of a Happy Life _ Peacefulmindbody

Happiness is something we all desire, we try to do whatever we can to become happy but still why it seems so hard to attain happiness? The reason behind our unhappy state is that we are looking for happiness in the wrong places, we think that we will be happier when we own a big house, get a highly-paid job, go on a long vacation, have a fulfilling relationship, etc, these all things do matter to increase joy in life to some extent but they can't give you everlasting happiness.



They can uplift your mood temporarily but for a long-term, deep, happy, and peaceful state you can't rely on external conditions, you have to look inside of you to gain true happiness.
Happiness is something that is embedded inside you, it depends on your way of thinking, how you respond to life circumstances, and how you embrace life as it is rather than get caught up in the trap of could have or should have.


Do you ever wonder why some people seem so happy and peaceful regardless of what they are going through in life? It seems happiness is so natural to them, that they don't even have to struggle for it. The truth is you don't have to struggle to be happy too. When you stop seeking it you will get it naturally. Certain traits are common among happy people.

THEY TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY OF THEIR LIFE:

They take full responsibility for their life and don't blame others for their feelings and setbacks in life. They know they are responsible for their response to life events and they have the power to choose a happy life for themselves, only they can make choices to move forward in life, they have to take a step, they know who they are and what is better for them. They embrace their failures and weaknesses and acknowledge that mistakes are part of a journey to success. They have a deeper sense of what they want in life and how to get that. They are not afraid of making decisions for their life.


They realize that they can't make the right choices every time and they try to learn from their experiences.
They own their feelings, they don't try to disregard their emotions. They understand that feeling all emotions, whether negative or positive, is a part of common human experience so they don't try to suppress them nor do they over-indulge in them rather they allow themselves to feel what they are feeling at the given moment.

THEY DON'T COMPLAIN:

Complaining makes you focus on things that you don't have rather than what you have. It can steal your peace of mind and decrease your happiness level. By complaining you feel disempowered and helpless, you want a desired change but you feel incapable of doing that, you feel others are obliged to do things for you.


Happy people know well that complaining is not the solution to their problems. They act proactively and take the necessary steps to work towards things that need to be done. They don't wait for others to do things for them. They don't complain about things that are beyond their control. They respect their limits and capacity, they accept that they can't control every aspect of their life.

THEY ARE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT THEY HAVE:

They show gratitude for every blessing they have. By being thankful they train their mind to focus on positive things in life which boosts their happiness level. They count their blessings and don't miss an opportunity to make the most of their inborn talents.


Each one of us is born with certain gifts, innate capabilities, and unique qualities to offer to the world. Happy people figure out their deep passion and talent and utilize efforts in the right direction. They are grateful for what they are giving to the world. They consider their uniqueness and individuality valuable. They know they are playing their part by serving the world with their exclusive talents and abilities. They don't degrade or devalue their contribution. They excel in their field as they are exactly doing what they are capable of.

PEACEFUL LIFE IS THEIR PRIORITY:

Happy people are well-aware of the fact that nothing is as precious as a peaceful life. They keep peace as a priority in their life and every other thing falls secondary to it. They live within their means, they keep realistic goals. They don't overdo it. They take good care of their physical and mental health.


They believe that by cultivating peace in their life they can achieve much more. Whenever they find themselves off-track they try to revert to a peaceful state. They are self-reflective are aware of their inner world, and can sense slight disruption in inner peace. They never trade their mental peace in running after unrealistic goals.

THEY DON'T SEEK APPROVAL OF OTHERS:

Happy people accept both their strengths and weaknesses. They know the art of self-compassion, and they console themselves when facing failure or difficult situations. They accept that they are trying their best and trust their instincts. They don't beat themselves up for making human errors. They show kindness towards them as well as to others. As they are already aware of their flaws and consider them a part of being human, they don't internalize criticism and judgment from the outside world nor do they require external validation, they appreciate themselves for their achievements no matter how small they are.


They know their self-worth. They don't mold their decisions to please others to feel loved, they do what they feel is right. They are capable of loving themselves and whenever they find themselves deviating from the right path they know how to rectify it with compassion and kindness.


They don't deny their mistakes and don't feel egoistic to apologize when someone gets offended by them. They are their best teachers, they know what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how to work on their less desirable attributes.

THEY ENJOY THE SUCCESS OF OTHERS AS WELL:

Happy people don't compare their life with others. They don't feel jealous, they understand that everyone is going through different pathways in life, and nobody can escape the twists and turns of life. They know we all have something to celebrate. We all are blessed in some ways. They appreciate others for their success and efforts while acknowledging their strengths. Their positive attitude towards life uplifts their happy state, enabling them to get more from life as they don't deplete their energy by envying others.


They don't have space for negativity in their hearts, they don't feel threatened by helping others and making them climb up the ladder of success, instead, they feel capable of contributing and making a difference in the lives of others.

THEY APPRECIATE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE:

Happy people don't miss a chance to enjoy simple things in day-to-day life. They know that by focusing on small beautiful things in life they can maintain their happiness. They like to smell the blooming flowers, walk on the lush green grass, sip a hot coffee, watch their favorite movie, enjoy their favorite ice cream flavor, play with their pet, or notice the beauty around them.


They don't wait for things to happen, they fully enjoy each moment and embrace it. They try to find joy in little things. They are quick to find goodness in others. They show warmth to others by appreciating their talents and qualities.


Happy people are not born lucky, they keep a healthy perspective towards life. They believe in the motto, live and let others live. They are pro-life. They are nurturing and don't hinder the growth of others. They try to focus on the brighter side of life while accepting the unavoidable suffering in life. They are the realistic people with a positive mindset.


We can adopt these traits of happy people and can bring a pleasant change in our lives. It's never too late to start living according to the principles which keep you happy and peaceful. All the best!

Peaceful Life is a Happy Life

Five Morning Rituals for Better Health_ Peacefulmindbody

 

When you wake up in the morning there are certain things you can do to give a good start to your day.
The following five tips are easy to follow so you need to do very little but can benefit a lot from doing them regularly.
Neuroscience suggests that we need 21 days to develop a new habit. So why not give these five rituals a try for 21 days and experience the uplift in your mood and life in general?

1...Take a few deep breaths before leaving the bed :  

       


It's not rocket science but it can do wonders. Inhaling air deeply through your nose up to the count of seven in a way that your belly comes out then hold your breath up to the count of three now exhale it fully through your mouth up to the count of ten.
This is not a fixed rule and you can adjust your breathing according to your comfort but exhalation should be longer than inhalation with a pause in between.
The mechanism behind this simple exercise is that by taking deep breaths you are stimulating your parasympathetic nervous system which is normally activated during rest and sleep. It counteracts the effects of the sympathetic nervous system (the sympathetic system gives you a fight-or-flight response).



This is most beneficial to people suffering from morning anxiety as it neutralizes the effects of catecholamines (i.e hormones released in blood in response to stimulation of the sympathetic nervous system)

2...Do some workouts:

It can be anything from a brisk walk to some kind of exercise for about 20 minutes (more beneficial if you exercise in a natural environment).
The main purpose is to move your body to release neurotransmitters, endorphins, and serotonin, commonly known as happy hormones. Exercise is beneficial to those having depressive moods as they can feel joyful by releasing their happy hormones during exercise. (In case you are suffering from clinical depression consult your doctor for proper medication as well)

3...Maintain a gratitude list:

What's more enjoyable than maintaining a list of all the things you are blessed with? This technique shifts your attention from the things you are lacking in your life to those you are grateful for.
By doing this simple exercise you are developing a habit that moves your mind from the emptiness in life to the fullness of life. I am often stuck in a habit of complaining instead of focusing on all the blessings that I'm having daily.



You can be thankful for a thing as simple as having food to eat, a place to sleep comfortably, having a healthy body, etc. By making this habit a part of your routine you can boost your mood within seconds. Keep practising it throughout your day as well and notice the difference in your life and well-being.

4...Take a healthy breakfast :

No one can deny the benefits of a healthy breakfast. Never skip your morning meal. After so many hours of fasting you need something to energize yourself in the morning otherwise low sugar levels i.e hypoglycemia can make you feel lethargic, exhausted, and anxious, you can't be your best when you are not energized so do yourself a favor and eat healthy breakfast which includes eggs, cereals, milk, butter, fresh juice, etc.



I am not in favour of tea or coffee although these caffeinated drinks can boost your energy levels for a short time and later make you craving for more of them. Besides this caffeine can worsen your anxiety by stimulating your sympathetic nervous system.



If you find it difficult to resist then you can take it but on a full stomach, never take it on an empty stomach as it can cause acidity symptoms and heartburn. Try to slowly cut down your caffeine intake.

5...Positive mindset:

Your mind starts believing what you feed into it so do some nice motivational self-talk. Focus on today's task, don't try to control the outcome of your task, just do your best with your best intention and enjoy the experience.



When people try to control the result of a particular task they feel anxious and tense. Often we become so focused on the result that we forget to do certain things that can improve the outcome, so instead of overburdening ourselves with something that is out of your control pay attention to things that you can do right at this moment to get the desired outcome.



Stop worrying and live in this moment. In this way, you can free yourself from unnecessary stress and distractions.
I hope these simple but proven tips can give your day a good start, a key is to make them a part of your routine.

...All the best!

7 Ways To Enjoy Peaceful Mind_peacefulmindbody

          

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Peace is the result of retraining 

your mind to process life as it is,

rather than as you think it should be.
                                                                                     ...Wayne W. Dyer                                                          

                                                
                                  
In today's fast-paced world, it seems a bit difficult to attain peace of mind while carrying out day-to-day tasks and fulfilling the demands of modern high-tech life, but the truth is that having a peaceful mind is not rocket science, an attitude towards life, the way one responds to different circumstances of life and anybody can cultivate it with little practice. It's something that already resides in you, it comes from within, it is related to your inside world and only you can make yourself at peace, you don't need anything outside your body to keep you calm and peaceful.


Being a peaceful person does not mean that you are unable to feel stress, tension, worries, or sadness rather it means you are more capable of dealing with negative emotions and thoughts as soon as they arise without disturbing your deep peaceful state and without feeling overwhelmed by the negativity. It's inevitable to avoid painful emotions we are born with a full range of emotions so it's better to let them flow through your body rather than numb yourself which is an unhealthy way of dealing with negativity, hinders your healing, growth, and a root cause of many mental illnesses.


If you are someone who is having a difficult time attaining and enjoying peace of mind then you are at the right place. You don't necessarily need to be a monk to get peace of mind just following simple yet effective ways of living can transform you into your best version, capable of maintaining deep well-deserved peace of mind.

MINDFULNESS:

 Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.
                                                                                            ... Buddha

What is mindfulness? It's a quality of being aware and conscious of one's feelings and thoughts, the ability to acknowledge the present moment as it is without resisting it.


By making mindfulness a ritual in your life you not only find yourself more at peace but also enjoy frequent episodes of joy and gratitude, it's an easy way to declutter your mind with detrimental thought patterns, and worries and appreciate what is there for you in this very moment.


Just pick one or two tasks that you perform daily and allow yourself to do them with full concentration and awareness. For example when you are brushing your teeth daily focus your attention on it, notice the feeling of bristles on your gums and teeth, movement of your brush, and become aware of sensations without judging how you are doing it.


The purpose of this technique is to keep your chattering mind away for some time, stop your racing thoughts, and get connected with your body by becoming conscious of yourself.

                                     
                                                                        

FOCUS ON YOUR BREATHING / STAY IN PRESENT MOMENT:

                               

 Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.
                                                                                                ...Eckhart Tolle

In moments of stress shift your attention to your breathing, and become aware of your inhalation and exhalation cycles. Take a nice deep breath through your nose fill your lungs with oxygen-rich air in a way that your abdomen comes out during inhalation then slowly release it through your mouth. This is called diaphragmatic breathing or abdominal breathing, your diaphragm, a muscle between the chest and abdominal cavity, contracts making your belly protrude out. This type of breathing aids in putting less effort and energy into breathing, maximizing the amount of oxygen while taking normal breaths, giving you a calming and relaxing state of mind, making you feel grounded, and keeping you connected with the present moment.


It's quite common to get lost in the past or worry about the future amid daily life issues, by just becoming aware of your surroundings, using your five senses as much as you can, paying attention to what you see, hear, smell, feel, taste in this moment you can bring your focus back to the task at hand, become connected with now without being engulfed by the challenges of life so you can make the most of this very moment while enjoying mental peace.

PEN DOWN YOUR WORRIES:

                  If something is wrong, fix it 
                  if you can. But train yourself 
                  not to worry, worry never 
                  fixes anything.
                                                                                                   ...Ernest Hemingway

I emphasize on this one a lot. We all have worries even people who seem to be breezing through life on a happy wave feel worried and stressed out at some time or the other, it's impossible to run from daily life agendas, we just have to manage it correctly.


Keep aside a few minutes every day from your busy routine and write down your worries, feelings, and thoughts. This helps you to gain a better perspective of the real you, your feelings, and life in general and is highly useful to vent your negative emotions, those that bring you down and make you anxious.


Assign a particular time for your worries, let's call it worry time, try to solve issues, sort out your problems, and figure out the solutions in this limited period .whenever a disturbing thought or worry arises at any time of the day, note it down instead of ruminating over it and make a mental note of returning to it later in the worry time. This can safeguard your entire day from getting ruined by interrupting thoughts and concerns.

LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES:

 The only source of knowledge is experience.
                                                                                            ...Albert Einstein
                                                                                                

We are not born with a manual of Do's and Don'ts, if something works for you it might not work for someone else, and the only way to learn is from your experience. Forget the idea of avoiding errors, you can't, you can lessen them by acquiring knowledge from your past experiences but you are unable to stop making mistakes. Remember there is no such thing as failure only feedback. Don't beat yourself up for being imperfect and creating errors, don't let your peaceful mind get disturbed by things that are beyond your control. Learn and move forward, you are exactly where you need to be to go where you want to be, it is the peaceful way of living without any doubt.

    

JUDGE LESS, ACCEPT MORE:

Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others.
                     
                                                                                                    ...Gerald Jampoisky

By becoming less critical of yourself and others you are allowing yourself as well as others to be their best authentic self. You can't accept others unless you fully accept yourself. Yes, it's true, you may find it difficult to accept the flaws of others when you are struggling with accepting your weaknesses. 


We all are imperfect beings, our flaws and mistakes make us human. Accept everyone as they are without having the urge to change them, we are incapable of changing others but we do have a choice either to accept them as they are or walk away, you can maintain healthy boundaries and stop allowing others to manipulate you or take advantage of you but don't waste your energy reserves in trying to change others, it's necessary for your well-being.

But yes you do have the power to work on your shortcomings and flaws, the first step towards becoming your best self is to acknowledge your flaws and become aware of your good and not-so-good attributes with compassion and empathy, People usually fall into two extremes they either become critical of themselves, blaming and criticizing or they prefer to stay in denial as they find their real self unacceptable. Both of the ways are awful, enough to disrupt your mental peace, you don't find it comfortable to stay with yourself as you are your own worst critic or you are not feeling connected to yourself as you are degrading your true self by denying it.


The more balanced or healthy way to deal with your imperfections is to accept them with compassion, admit that you have flaws just like all other human beings, and focus on improving yourself.                                     

                                                

STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE WITH OTHERS:

 Try not to get lost in comparing yourself to others. Discover your gifts 
and let them shine!
                                                                                                      ...Jennie Finch

This is a sure way to feel depressed and frustrated, destroying inner peace and giving rise to envy which again can kill inner tranquillity. People are going through ups and downs in life, facing challenges, and fighting battles no one is aware of. You can't predict their inner story just by looking at their perfect life. We all are experiencing different situations, our sufferings are different, and our journey of life is unique so it doesn't make sense to compare it with others. It's fine if you are lacking something in life we all feel this way.

 By acknowledging the fact that it's impossible to get what you want every time and whenever you desire you can ease yourself, and calm inner conflicts and harsh judgment. Try to accept things as they are instead of creating some ideal version. Don't miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.

SHOW KINDNESS TOWARD OTHERS:

 Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless.
                                                                                                           ...Mother Teresa

You don't need a reason to make someone happy, your little act of kindness can do wonders in the life of others. By helping others we bring peace to ourselves, even your kind words have the power to mend broken hearts, heal tortured souls, and give sunshine to gloomy life. Whatever good you are contributing today in this world, it will soon reflect on you, do good, and good will follow you.


True kindness is to give something without expecting anything in return. By offering your help with a pure heart you not only create happiness in the lives of others but you can make yourself peaceful, not anticipating a return from them. You enjoy your ability to make others happy which in itself is a big blessing. By lifting someone, you are lifting yourself, it's a sure way to enlighten your heart and soul. Do not forget to show the same kindness to yourself as well.

                    
              
 Peace of mind comes when you stop expecting and start accepting...
                                                

The things that disturb us most are within us, that are thoughts, by knowing yourself better with compassion, by calming your inner critic, and by embracing your life with all its gifts you feel more empowered to deal with the challenges of the outer world.


You don't need to wait for things to fall in place before you enjoy a peaceful life, you just have to take care of your inner world and it will cherish you with much-awaited mental peace.

 All the best!